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Lifestyle hating sister in law calling me a slut

by on Apr.23, 2011, under Unsorted

Question:
Hello, I love your site and tell all our lifestyle friends about it.
My question is not about the lifestyle per say, but about dealing with my sister in law.
Last summer she found out that my husband and I are in the lifestyle and though my husband forced her through threats of telling their mother certain things about her not to out us she is still out of control when it comes to her treatment of me. Whenever we are out of earshot at family gatherings she calls me slut instead of me name. She also says it under her breath whenever she things she can get away with it.
She even addresses emails to me as “the slut,” instead of my name. My husband has asked her to stop repeatedly, but to no avail. Her own husband is also against the lifestyle, but stays out of it. He has said though that his wife is just telling it as she sees it. I’m hating the bitch and the situation is grating on me.
Hoping you had some advice about handling an evil sister in law who hates the lifestyle.

Answer: 
Miranda-
First and foremost I want to take the time to apologize to you for the very sloth like response time it took us to answer your question.  Due to a family emergency I wasn’t able to be at a computer, I apologize. 
I also want to apologize to you for your sister in law because in the lifestyle or not, it’s never acceptable to call someone a name or didn’t she learn that in grade school? 
Omg, you poor women, I just want you to know that for you to have withstood the torture and punishment as long as you have makes me believe you’re an absolute saint, and to be honest if I had a family member calling me a slut (as a derogatory term) every time we were together NOTHING would stop me from knocking the B out, I admire your self control and devotion to your husband’s family.  Bravo girlie! 
Now for some help with your uneducated self absorbed and extremely hurtful sister in law! 
I looked up the word, “slut” in the dictionary and and under the word it states, Slut 1. a slovenly woman (slovenly meaning person who is habitually untidy and or careless), 2.  a prostitute.  We all know the only person who is obviously habitually untidy or careless is your sister in law, who finds it socially acceptable to throw words around “carelessly and in a “habitually”  untidy manner.  Please inform your sister in law that while you may sleep with other woman’s husbands you do it with protection and not in a “slovenly” manner.    Now bring in the prostitute!!!!! 
In the dictionary the word prostitute is described as, 1. a person who engages in sexual activity for payment. 2.misuse (one’s talents or skills etc.) for money.  Now we all know you aren’t asking for payment for sex in the lifestlye of swinging so it just goes to show how absolutely SCARED and once again uneducated your sister in law is about your personal choices. 
Lets say your husband’s sister is trying to hurt you because of her fear and insecurities.  She finds what you do to be “wrong” but the only “wrong ” that is being done is for her to disrespect the wife of her brother. 
Ask her if she ever went on a date, had her date pay for dinner and then slept with him?  Well you could go as so far as to call her a “slut”  or a “prostitute.” She engaged in a sexual activity for a dinner paid for.  I could really rant forever on the subject but in conclusion you can always turn it it around. Turn it for her yourself  or send her our answer page.  I wouldn’t mind at all if you did. 
I’m SO amazingly sorry for you situation and I hope my answer gives you strength.  Because I don’t know your husband’s family it’s hard to give a concrete answer on what to do because we are all so different and on completely different life journeys.  I hope you find the courage to confront her and I truly hope your husband lays down the law because after all it’s a member of his family, but you as a wife are in essence an extension of his soul.  Your sister in law is disrespecting his soul. 
I have never wanted to hug a person who wrote us before but I wish I could hug you…honestly.  Thank you for enjoying our site and for opening up to us and our readers about a problem that others  suffer from.  That problem being, sexual discrimination and disrespecting  another being for their beliefs and  moral codes. 
Your sister in law hurts you and instead of lashing out you walk away.  Something your sister in-law can’t do.  Once again BRAVO for your goodness of heart and if you get the chance I would love to know how you handle the situation from here on out.  Keep us informed.  And as my stepsister always says… WOMAN POWER!!!!!!  lol

Answer:
By Aarron-
Dealing with family can be hard sometimes. It’s good that you at least have some dirt on your foul mouthed in-law to keep her shut up. It’s good, but also sad that you need it.
Unlike my wife I don’t applaud you for putting up with it and I also won’t jest about turning it around on her our knocking the B out.
I do agree that you have shown some extraordinary patience for putting up with it since last summer, but you really shouldn’t have to be dealing with it anyway. It’s your husband’s job in my opinion to take care of it. It is his sister. You married into the family, but when it comes down to it nobody said you had to deal with treatment like that when you signed on the dotted line.

Note: We here at The Swingers Attic are of the opinion that a “SLUT” is not a bad thing to be. We are proud sluts ourselves.
We have however responded to this topic based on the situation and how the word is being used as an insult.

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