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They keep converting our vanilla friends.

by on Sep.27, 2011, under Unsorted

Question:
Last year we moved from Portland Oregon (which has a decent lifestyle scene) to a very small town in Utah.
The pickings here are scarce so the two other lifestyle couples that we did end up befriending became our only possible play partners unless we traveled. One of those couples keeps trying to convert our vanilla friends. They are successful at it and have expanded our play circle so there is some good in it, but we are afraid that somehow they are going to out us in the community as swingers. My husband would lose his job if outed. Twice now the new lifestyle converts have been people who are my husband’s coworkers. We are getting nervous. How do we get this couple to step back from our vanilla friends? They have become part of our overall social circle so simply not inviting them on nights out cant solve it.

Answer:
By Miranda-
EEEEEEP!!!!  What a difficult situation for you two.  My best advice to you isn’t to NOT invite them but sit them down and directly say, “listen you two have had a great track record for converting our vanilla friends but have you really thought of the consequences you two are potentially going to cause us in the long run once a vanilla couple doesn’t want to enter the lifestyle?”  Make it clear that you two truly enjoy their company and love including them but feel like they’re putting your reputation in danger and may even cause your husband his job if they’re not careful.  I know it’s always difficult to talk about the elephant in the room but it’s eventually going to have to be a subject of discussion.  I think it’s really important to reinforce to this couple HOW concerned you are and let them know that you two don’t mind if they convert vanillas just not YOUR friends or husband’s co workers. Yikes!!!!
I wish I had more to give you for advice but it’s a truly fragile situation because while you two like this couple they could cost you a lifestyle of your own.  Tread lightly and try not to rock the boat.  Sometimes when you confront people they become defensive or angry even if they’re in the wrong.  The last thing you want to do is have a talk with this couple and then have them going around to EVERY coworker or friend you two have to convert them just to spite you.  I don’t know this couple but I’m giving the worst case scenario.  Just be honest and upfront without being judgemental or rude.  Show honest concern for your family and be as honest as possible with them so they understand your situation.  I’m sending my positive energy ALL the way to Utah.
Remember communication is key! Thanks for sharing your situation with us.

Answer:
By Aarron-
I must say that you have certainly gotten yourselves in a pickle.
If it was me in such a situation I would start weighing the importance of the lifestyle against the importance of my job.
How that weighs in with you I have no idea because I don’t know your profession. If I had a job that was not easily replaced and my family depended on me to survive I would be taking a break from the whole swinging thing for a while. Your situation just sounds that risky to me.
My own profession not only allows me the freedom to be out as a swinger if I wished it, but it also allows me to find a new job semi quickly if for some reason I had to do so.
If that is your case too then I would say pretty much the same thing as Miranda said.
It is time for a sit down talk with the couple.
Make sure they know how much you appreciate the way they have expanded your play circle and helped create a small lifestyle scene where non existed before. Let them know that you think you have benefited from it. Once they know that you have gratitude for their actions to that point it will set a better tone for you asking them to back off from certain people. Explain your personal worries and let them know how you really feel about it. If they are decent people they will more likely than not start leaving your vanilla friends and coworkers alone.
If that doesn’t work then it is back to considering the value of your job and community standing in comparison with your personal lifestyle choices.
I wish you luck in your odd situation.

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Ripples Waterproof Mini Vibrator

by on Sep.26, 2011, under Spice

I was recently sent the Ripples Waterproof Mini Vibrator for review from Good Vibrations, and though it is made of ABS Plastic rather than silicone (my preferred material because it is easy to sterilize between uses) I thought it was still very worthy of being shared here on the Swingers Attic. (please see notes about cleaning and sterilizing this product at the end of my post)

Here it is.
The Ripples Waterproof Mini Vibrator in it’s packaging.

Fun tiny vibe in the box

Ripples is from the Doc Johnson Decadence collection of sex toys and has their trademarked “Velvet Cote” finish.
Velvet cote is a good description because the vibe feels velvety-soft.
Why do I like this vibe?
It is because this wavy little plaything is petite enough to take anywhere. (I took that line from Good Vibrations description because it fit so perfectly)
With a wider base and narrower tip it fits anywhere too!
The ripples make it great for soft anal play, but the reality is that this vibe is best for external clit stimulation.
I love small vibrators that I can toss in my purse and bring with me anyplace.
Little things like this are so small you can even just put it in a pocket, or better yet, make your husband put it in his pocket and carry it around for you just in case it is needed.

How small is it?
It is about the size of my index finger.

The ripples vibrator is about the same size as my finger

I’m sure all you fun people out there in swinger land know how wonderful something the size of a finger can be. Now imagine that little finger is velvety soft, rigid, smooth, has no nail on the end to worry about, has ripples, and vibrates.
Nice finger I’d say. I hope your thinking girly fingers because it is about the size of my husbands pinky finger.
Here it is compared to my pinky finger.

This vibe may be my husband pinky size but my pinky is smaller

I have small fingers. My pinky wouldn’t do it for you. The ripples vibe would though I bet.

If your a more organized person than I am and you like to keep all your little swinger bag nick nacks separated in little bags and cases you will love this.
It comes with a great little case that enables you to store the vibe safely from all your other items.
No zip lock needed!
This case would also be great just for general storage or for when you are traveling. It is always funny to me when the airport guys open up your case and see your vibrator stuffed between your undies and toothpaste, but I know not everyone thinks that way.

The little case for your finger sized vibrator

Ripples is discreet little toy.
It is waterproof, has a multi speed dial type control (the lightest vibration is VERY quiet) and only requires 1 AA battery to tickle your fancy.
Not a must, but if you want a small, low noise, velvety, rippled pocket sized vibe that you can take anyplace then this is one worth checking out.
It is certainly a great alternative to a standard pocket rocket styled vibe, and though it isn’t the best for internal use it is wonderful to have that option.

Here is a direct link to the Ripples Waterproof Mini Vibrator on the Good Vibrations site.

This vibe is a keeper

Cleaning and sterilization notes of ABS:
Though ABS plastics clean well with just some soap and water they can not be sterilized with normal household products without possible damage to the product.
If you are sharing this toy with people whom you are not fluid bonded then bleach is your only option for sterilization between uses.
ABS can be soaked a 10% to 20% solution of bleach to water (resulting is satisfactory sterilization) but bleach can cause slight corrosion or discoloration to these plastics. It is usually very slight and takes multiple soaks to notice such corrosion / discoloration, but it does happen.
Isopropyl alcohol may also be used on ABS plastics, but please note that this serves to sanitize rather than fully sterilize the toy.
Since this product is a not easily sterilized in the home environmental I must say that it would be safest to use a condom on the product when sharing. The size of this toy however makes me wish to recommend latex finger cots instead.

Here is a link to – Finger Cots on Amazon.com

This Ripples vibrator was sent to us free of charge from Good Vibrations in exchange for an honest review of the product.
This review was written by Miranda in cooperation with and  sterilization notes added by Aarron.

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