The Swingers Attic

Are they a swingers couple?

by on Jan.25, 2012, under Unsorted

My husband and I have met a couple and after we was interduced the
next day I received a text message saying (we so so so need to get
together so the boys can have a play date,) at first i didnt think
anything about the text, but now i do think something is up. second
time being around i thought she was hitting on my man because we was
invited over to play cards drink beer. Everytime my man went to have a
smoke she followed time he was even taking a piss he said
hey im out here she said its only me. By now im getting upset i go out
she is telling us how she tans in the nude. Like i could careless. Ok
I have nothing against swingers. Just not for me. I was wondering do
you think this is a swingers cpl or she just after my man. And if they
are how do you tell a cpl this isnt what we are wanting.

By Miranda-
Okay, so I can’t tell you exactly how to handle this situation because we don’t know if they’re truly swingers, and also if the female does have a little crush on your husband and they aren’t swingers do you really want to draw attention to it  if the husband of this lady hasn’t caught on?
Never rock a motor boat. You haven’t really hung out with this couple enough to really pass judgements on their sexual orientation and they may really take offence if you come out and say, “Hey we don’t want to sleep with you two,” if…they aren’t swingers.
Don’t make it a point to becomes friends with this couple if you aren’t feeling comfortable, or give it a little more time to see what their intentions are. Either way… you shouldn’t jump to conclusions.
If the wife tans in the nude it is no big deal and whether you care or not is up to you. She probably didn’t think twice about your husband using the facilities outside, and if she also smokes you must remember that at social gatherings smokers often go out together.
Sit back, relax, and if they turn out to want to sleep with you, politely decline and decide if you want to carry on a friendship with this couple.

By Aarron-
It is just as likely that you are dealing with a very open couple or a flirtatious woman as a lifestyle couple. It could be that this woman is just very forthright in her thinking and actions so comes off a bit strong in certain ways.
There is really no way for us to know if they are swingers by the things you mentioned. Going off of just those things I certainly wouldn’t have a clue if I was in your shoes.
I will say that if these people are making you uncomfortable right from the start it most likely wont be a long or important friendship.
Since you do have a desire to hang out for some reason though I would suggest that you somehow bring up the topic of swingers and then mention that such things are not for you. Doing such a thing would either get them to tell if they are or are not in the lifestyle, or at least make them know that you are not interested if they don’t wish to disclose such information.
As for the “she just after my man” part of your question… again I have no way of knowing. If it is a worry then maybe not hanging out with the people is your best bet.


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