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When he watches me I can’t cum

by on Nov.14, 2011, under Sexuality, Unsorted

Question:

About a year ago I fulfilled one of my husbands fantasies by meeting up with a traveling man in a hotel room for sex and then coming home with his cum in me. That first time was nerve wracking because I didn’t know what to expect from my husband afterwards, but it turned him on so much it was like when we first met. He wanted sex with me every minute for weeks and couldn’t keep his eyes off of me. I loved his response so much I decided to do it again and because I wasn’t worried had the hugest orgasms ever. We have been doing this ever since and both love it.
About two months ago my husband asked to watch me and I did it. My husband loved it and I had sex with both of them three times each. It was fun and my husband was even more turned on and now that is what he wants. To fuck me with a freshly filled pussy. The problem is that i can’t cum when i am being watched. I like how passionate it makes him towards me, but I have become addicted to the multiple orgasms I get from having a new guy and knowing how my husband is going to ravish me afterwards. When he watches I get just to the point of climax and can’t get over it. I told him I like the hotel meetings and privacy and he says it isn’t as good so he doesn’t want me doing it anymore. If you have suggestions on how to get a compromise on this I’d be a happy woman. No lectures on STD facts and meeting strange men please. My husband does background checks on the men before I meet them and makes sure they are who they say and I am in the medical profession and know that I am taking health risks, but also know that I am more likely to die in a car accident on the way to the hotel than catch an STD that can’t be taken care of with simple antibiotics. I asked a similar question to this on another site with forums and just got told that I shouldn’t meet with strange men and to use condoms by a bunch of people who get their health information from scare pamphlets.

Answer:
By Miranda-
Well you won’t get any STD facts from us today my dear!!!!  I think it’s wonderful you do this for your husband and I also think it’s great you and your husband were able to light an old flame in the bed room by fulfilling your husband’s fantasies.  It sounds like you enjoy sleeping with other men and you enjoy your husband’s reactions.
Now onto ways you can find a compromise!!!  I think you should ask your husband if you can maybe film the encounter.  That way you come home with a tape for him to cherish for as long as he likes and you also get to orgasm multiple times.
I personally don’t think it’s fair for your husband to all of a sudden change the game plan by saying it’s not good to meet them alone anymore since you’ve been doing it for a year.  I do think it’s dangerous for you to meet men in hotels you don’t know but…it’s absolutely none of my business and to each their own.
I can’t say I never did anything like that before.  The men of course would have to agree to the taping of course, but if you aren’t enjoying your husband’s presence and he loves to watch you with these men well… that’s my suggestion.  That way you get to cum and he gets a souvenir, it’s a win win situation.  I wish you the best of luck with your dilemma and hope you and your husband can figure it out.  It doesn’t sound like a horrible hitch in your giddy up just a small puddle, you two I can tell will make it work for both of you. Good luck and have fun enriching the communication in your marriage, also thank you for sharing your life with Aarron and I.

Answer:
By Aarron-
I like Miranda’s filming idea, but I am not sure that would give your husband what he is looking for, and it also may remove the spontaneity from your own experiences and maybe make you just as self conscious as when your husband is watching in person. I am taking it for granted that it is a bit of self consciousness that is stopping your orgasms while being watched, or it may be that you behave differently with the other men when alone, and become inhibited while your hubby is in the room.
I will say that if he liked you coming home after, and also liked being there during… the filming would be something else he would probably enjoy. It is doubtful it would replace his wanting to watch though in my mind.
The compromise you are looking for is basically that you are just as entitled to get what you want in your sexual adventures as your husband is. It is one of those situations where my advise is just to state what you want and need.
Make it an every other time type thing maybe. He gets off on the watching, being involved, and sexing you up immediately, but you need some private one on one to get your rocks off. Say so.
It is great that you started with this activity to fulfill your husbands desires and it turned out to be something you really enjoy. I would guess that because of how you started the adventure and the description of your husbands reactions that he would be more than happy to do an every other time type play agreement.

 

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The Hotwife Thing

by on Mar.26, 2011, under Unsorted

Question:
Hi, this is more like multiple questions than one. First I will tell you the background and why I am asking about this.
We met a couple that are both really into the hotwife thing and after getting to be pretty good friends my wife has gotten really into the idea of it. She wants to surprise me with her used pussy and have me ask her all about what happened. This is what the couple we met are into doing besides normal swinging.
I am willing to play along a few times for my wife, but don’t actually understand the reasons people get off on this.
If your able to shed some light on why this is a turn on id be grateful.
Questions for Miranda are 1. What would be the turn on of having a strange guy cum inside? Can women actually feel it happening? If so, what is it like? 2. What would be the turn on for a woman to have their husband have sex with them afterwards?
Questions for Aarron are 1. Why do some guys want to have another guy cum inside their wife?
2. What makes having sex with their wife after another man has came inside any hotter than if she had just had sex and not had a guy cum inside? I like watching my wife have sex, but the whole cum thing escapes me.
I apologize if my questions are to many and story to long. Thank you in advance for your input.

Answer:
By Miranda-
First and foremost never apologize for the “to many questions or too long of an explanation,” that’s what we’re here for and love doing it. 
Now, onto the answers from my end.
  I can understand a woman wanting her husband to come into the room to find a dripping used pussy and role play with it a bit.  I think many of us lifestyle woman LOVE feeling naughty and sometimes the naughtier the better.  
We are close with a couple who the guy LOVES the used pussy thing and my husband doesn’t mind helping him out by filling his wife’s pussy. 
Part of the turn-on for women I think is the sexy naughty of it and feeling used without actually being disrespected. 
As for a woman feeling a man cum in her, yes, as a man ejaculates I can feel his hard cock pulsate and fill me with his cum. 
I think it’s hot and and every time makes me feel like I’m the sexiest girl alive.  There’s just something about a cum filled dripping pussy and having another man take over that makes you feel desired, lusted over and just down right scandalous. Lets face it, sometimes a girl wants to feel like a naughty slut. 
I actually just read an erotica story about a cop arresting a prostitute, fucking her in an alley then calling for back up…HOT!!!!
Weather it is just a fantasy or something to live out I think a woman wants to sometimes step outside the bounds and have a little double creampie.  I know I do. 
I hope I’ve answered your questions fully or at least turned you on so you want a little double dipping yourself.  Thank you for the spectacular question…keep em cumming!

Answer:
By Aarron-
We don’t really do the “hotwife thing,” so I can only give you a half-ass answer here.
We swing as a team, and 99% of the time we don’t even play seperate. Like you I enjoy watching my wife and that is hot enough for me.
I do however understand part of what makes it hot for some men to have their wives allow other men to cum inside. The part I understand is the naughty aspect. It is going just a bit farther than sex with condoms. It ups the naughty factor. I like that my wife is naughty and therefore under the right circumstances it could be hot.
Again I point out that we don’t play this way so I am not an expert on this particular scene.
I point that out because there are many reasons men like that sort of behavior in their wives that has nothing to do with the “naughty factor” I mentioned.
For some men it is degrading and it serves as a sort of humiliation game.
For other men it is empowering and makes them feel like kings with the sexiest wife on the planet.
For me it would be the naughty factor that turned me on.
For most I would assume it is a combination of things.
I apologize for not being able to give you one of my usual long winded answers.
Hopefully between Miranda and myself we have shed at least a little bit of light on the subject for you.

Even though it wasn’t asked - I must add something here.
 I simply must say that random play without condoms is not the safest of activities and before you decide to “play along a few times” for the sake of your wife’s entertainment you seriously need to weigh the pros and cons of such activities.
I would also like to say that just because your friends play in the way you described… it doesn’t represent all women who consider themselves “hotwives” or their husbands.
Condoms are a very normal thing for hotwife play and it just happens that your new friends prefer to play without for the sake of a creampie fetish which is a subject unto it’s own.

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