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When he watches me I can’t cum

by on Nov.14, 2011, under Sexuality, Unsorted

Question:

About a year ago I fulfilled one of my husbands fantasies by meeting up with a traveling man in a hotel room for sex and then coming home with his cum in me. That first time was nerve wracking because I didn’t know what to expect from my husband afterwards, but it turned him on so much it was like when we first met. He wanted sex with me every minute for weeks and couldn’t keep his eyes off of me. I loved his response so much I decided to do it again and because I wasn’t worried had the hugest orgasms ever. We have been doing this ever since and both love it.
About two months ago my husband asked to watch me and I did it. My husband loved it and I had sex with both of them three times each. It was fun and my husband was even more turned on and now that is what he wants. To fuck me with a freshly filled pussy. The problem is that i can’t cum when i am being watched. I like how passionate it makes him towards me, but I have become addicted to the multiple orgasms I get from having a new guy and knowing how my husband is going to ravish me afterwards. When he watches I get just to the point of climax and can’t get over it. I told him I like the hotel meetings and privacy and he says it isn’t as good so he doesn’t want me doing it anymore. If you have suggestions on how to get a compromise on this I’d be a happy woman. No lectures on STD facts and meeting strange men please. My husband does background checks on the men before I meet them and makes sure they are who they say and I am in the medical profession and know that I am taking health risks, but also know that I am more likely to die in a car accident on the way to the hotel than catch an STD that can’t be taken care of with simple antibiotics. I asked a similar question to this on another site with forums and just got told that I shouldn’t meet with strange men and to use condoms by a bunch of people who get their health information from scare pamphlets.

Answer:
By Miranda-
Well you won’t get any STD facts from us today my dear!!!!  I think it’s wonderful you do this for your husband and I also think it’s great you and your husband were able to light an old flame in the bed room by fulfilling your husband’s fantasies.  It sounds like you enjoy sleeping with other men and you enjoy your husband’s reactions.
Now onto ways you can find a compromise!!!  I think you should ask your husband if you can maybe film the encounter.  That way you come home with a tape for him to cherish for as long as he likes and you also get to orgasm multiple times.
I personally don’t think it’s fair for your husband to all of a sudden change the game plan by saying it’s not good to meet them alone anymore since you’ve been doing it for a year.  I do think it’s dangerous for you to meet men in hotels you don’t know but…it’s absolutely none of my business and to each their own.
I can’t say I never did anything like that before.  The men of course would have to agree to the taping of course, but if you aren’t enjoying your husband’s presence and he loves to watch you with these men well… that’s my suggestion.  That way you get to cum and he gets a souvenir, it’s a win win situation.  I wish you the best of luck with your dilemma and hope you and your husband can figure it out.  It doesn’t sound like a horrible hitch in your giddy up just a small puddle, you two I can tell will make it work for both of you. Good luck and have fun enriching the communication in your marriage, also thank you for sharing your life with Aarron and I.

Answer:
By Aarron-
I like Miranda’s filming idea, but I am not sure that would give your husband what he is looking for, and it also may remove the spontaneity from your own experiences and maybe make you just as self conscious as when your husband is watching in person. I am taking it for granted that it is a bit of self consciousness that is stopping your orgasms while being watched, or it may be that you behave differently with the other men when alone, and become inhibited while your hubby is in the room.
I will say that if he liked you coming home after, and also liked being there during… the filming would be something else he would probably enjoy. It is doubtful it would replace his wanting to watch though in my mind.
The compromise you are looking for is basically that you are just as entitled to get what you want in your sexual adventures as your husband is. It is one of those situations where my advise is just to state what you want and need.
Make it an every other time type thing maybe. He gets off on the watching, being involved, and sexing you up immediately, but you need some private one on one to get your rocks off. Say so.
It is great that you started with this activity to fulfill your husbands desires and it turned out to be something you really enjoy. I would guess that because of how you started the adventure and the description of your husbands reactions that he would be more than happy to do an every other time type play agreement.

 

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Going down after cumming inside

by on Dec.01, 2010, under Sexuality

Question:

My husband and I have been swinging for close to three years and have for the most part always played using condoms, but sometimes we don’t for various reasons.
When we play bareback I always request that the man pull out for orgasm and we have never had an issue.
This time we had all been drinking a bit to much and not only did the guy cum inside, but I asked him to after he asked if he could.
My husband was extremely turned on by this and as soon as my friend got off of me my husband went down on me. I was slightly appalled and didn’t know what to think. My husband got into it so much he achieved a second erection (something he never is able to do) and had sex with me while telling me how hot it was to lick another mans cum from my pussy.
I think this is very strange and a bit gross. I have never heard of a man wanting to do that and it seems to smack of homosexuality also.
What I was wondering is if this is a common thing, or should I be worried?

Answer:
By Miranda-
In my personal opinion bodily fluid is bodily fluid. Your husband I presume goes down on woman so and NOT on men.
He probably hasn’t told you about any homosexual tendencies because he doesn’t have any. Your husband probably got turned on by another man cumming in you and believed it would be a secure thing for him to be able to enjoy your juices after. I don’t think you should worry about your husband being homosexual, honestly. Like you said, you all had a little too much to drink and your husband was indulging comfortably in a fantasy.
Licking another mans cum out of your pussy doesn’t shout, “hey I’m gay!” It to me personally shouts, “Hey I feel comfortable doing this and my wife is so hot for letting this guy cum in her!”
I wouldn’t mind if my husband did such a thing if that’s what he was into but it’s NOT something I’m going to ask him to do because as like you I find it a bit appalling. But in life, I always say to each their own, so if my husband felt like in the heat of the moment he wanted to do such a thing well, go for it!!!
If you’re not comfortable with him licking you after another man has cum in you please make sure you tactfully tell him so.
Don’t make him feel like what he did was wrong or nasty just tell him that in order for you to enjoy yourself, you would prefer for him not to do that. Tell him you didn’t become turned on by it and would prefer if he didn’t indulge in doing it. Maybe tell him you felt a little uneasy and uncomfortable.
Chances are you’re husband also had a little to much to drink and acted on a whim. He felt comfortable doing it but if you aren’t comfortable with it make sure to make it clear. Feeling sexy and comfortable are essential in the lifestyle and if one of you isn’t feeling both then its probably a good idea to talk about why.

Answer:
By Aarron-
Since you say your have never heard of a man being into licking the cum out of his wife’s pussy you obviously haven’t played around any people into the hotwife & or cuckold thing. For people who are really into those two sorts of play it is very common in both fantasy and reality for men to enjoy licking cum from their freshly fucked wives.
Are these men homosexuals? Nope. Certainly a few are bisexual , but the focus of the hotwife lifestyle is on the wife. The male often puts his wife on a pedestal as a sort of sexual goddess. It isn’t gay at all. In cuckoldry the male is often playing the victim and the wife is dominant and a keeps her husband as a submissive. The licking of her lovers cum from her pussy is an act of servitude. Both cuckoldry and hotwife fetishists do of course play their games and live their lifestyles in many different ways, so you can’t take what I just said as something that applies to all.
My point is… It is VERY common in hose particular lifestyles.
In swinging it is however also common for some men to have such fantasies. It is rarely played out though because swinging in general is a subculture that pushes for safe sex more than almost any grouping of people I know of.
Swingers are by far the most condom using group of people I have ever met.
Condoms are expected unless otherwise agreed on in swinging.
That is something I have never come across in any other lifestyle.
If only vanilla people practiced such safe measures.
Another reason that men don’t go down on their wives (or other women) after another man has cum in them is that homosexuality and bisexuality are not looked at kindly in the swinging lifestyle when it comes to men.
For a group of people that onsider themselves sexualy open it baffles me how many homophobics exist in the lifestyle.
Bisexual males often hide their bi side in swinging and straight men often don’t do certain things they may wish to do for fear someone my think it is a gay act.
If your husband was very turned on by another man cumming inside you (something else taboo to many swingers) and wanted to lick you because it got him off… more power to him.
It isn’t my thing. I don’t usually like to go there after cumming when it’s my own even, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t normal.
As for your own feelings… You got screwed, got a load of cum you obviously wanted, and then got eaten out afterwards. It all sounds like it should have been pretty pleasurable.
Not many women would have a complaint about having good sex leading to oral sex that turned into even more sex.
Since you are a bit put off though, my advice is that you tell him your thoughts. I know that I would want to know if I was doing something that turned my wife off.

Some fun facts:
The act of sucking semen out of the vagina or anus of one’s partner after sex is properly called Felching. You can see Wikipedia’s page on felching here.
The common term for what your husband did however in modern speak is Creampie Eating.
A creampie is when a male cums inside his partner’s anus or vagina.
The term also refers to the visible cum dripping from the anus or vagina.
Go here for Wikipedia’s page on Creampie. I would like to point out however at the time of this post (Dec 1st 2010) Wikipedia seriously needs to update the creampie page.

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