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Likes to swallow every time

by on Nov.14, 2010, under Playing with others, Sexuality

Question:

I love swallowing, but my husband says it makes him uncomfortable when I swallow other men’s cum.
I tell him it is my reward for a job well done and he says I should only swallow his cum.
I have never heard him tell another woman not to swallow his cum though.
What should I do?

Answer: 
By Miranda-
You should do a little more investigating into the reason he only wants you to swallow his cum. 
Is it because of intimacy or is it because he thinks it not safe?  He could just want it to be a special thing you do with him, but he thinks it to be special with others as well. Maybe that’s why he doesn’t want you to do it with others is because its a special thing and it makes him feel like your lovers are just as important.  
It may be a way he feels close to you. 
Remember in the case of safety that if you have a cut or scratch inside your mouth it’s probably not a good idea to have a mans cum in your mouth but otherwise you are safe.  
Your stomach acids are designed to take care of such things if they weren’t the world would be riddled with sickness of all sorts. 
I think you need to discuss it a little further with your husband and weigh the pros and cons.  What’s good for the goose is good for the gander so I only find it fair that if he is okay with other women swallowing his cum he should be okay with you swallowing other men’s.

Answer:
By Aarron-
If his concerns are about sexually transmitted infections it should be a matter of having a man orgasm in your mouth or not rather than an issue of you swallowing.
Herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis can all be transmitted through unprotected oral sex.
As for HIV , most experts say there is little to no risk of getting HIV through fellatio.
Since most sexually transmitted infections are transmitted through contact with sores or lesions on the genitals, or are present in the precum, anybody performing unprotected oral sex on an infected partner has already been exposed even before their partner reaches orgasm.
Once the guy cums you have two choices… spit or swallow.
If swallowing is the rout taken you can rest easy knowing that the digestive enzymes and acids will destroy all the nasty germs and your stomach and intestines are not vulnerable to sexually transmitted infections.
So… with that out of the way:
It is my guess that the issue your husband has with you swallowing has zip to do with STI risks.
I am guessing it has to do with intimacy or wanting to keep something semi special between you.
Just because your husband lets other women swallow his cum doesn’t men he likes you to swallow other men’s cum.
From the perspective of many males it often it seems extra special and intamate for a woman to swallow.
The woman is taking in fluid from the male. She deliberately swallows his cum.
The male is taking nothing into his body and therefore doesn’t feel it as such an intimate or special act on his part. He is also not making a decision as to what becomes of his ejaculate. The woman is.
The ball is in her court so to speak. It is her decision as to if she removes his cock from her mouth for orgasm or keeps it in her mouth and allows his cum to go in her mouth. It is then her decision to spit or swallow the cum if she did let him cum in her mouth.
The male is semi passive through all of this and if he does take an active role in these decisions through physical guidance or verbal requests he is still at the mercy of whatever decision the woman makes.
It is a very powerful position for the woman.
So… you can see how it can be viewed by some men as special for the woman to swallow, yet not special for the man to “let” a woman swallow.
Talk with your husband and see what it really is that makes him feel uncomfortable when you swallow for other men.

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Giving notice of the big ‘O’

by on Nov.01, 2010, under Lifestyle Etiquette, Playing with others

Question:

When we go to clubs and a girl is giving me oral sex I usually tell her when I am going to cum, but a few times I have not been in a position to do so.
Does a woman have a way to know when a man is going to cum? 
Is it wrong to not tell a woman when she is giving me oral?
No problems so far from the few times I wasn’t able to tell them in advance, but I worry about it.

Answer:
By Miranda-
I will tell you I enjoy when a man tells me he is going to cum because it allows me to work my magic and fully enjoy the experience.  Also I can tell when my husband is about to cum in my mouth because his cock becomes harder and begins to pulsate.  However not all men have this happen and not all woman pay that much attention to it. 
I think telling a woman you’re about to cum is considerate and sexy but I think its not always necessary.  For some woman it’s a must have and for others they could care less.  I believe you’re doing the right thing by voicing your orgasm and it never hurts to drop the hint. 
I tell my partners when I am going to orgasm because I think it lets them know that what they’re doing shouldn’t be stopped but not all people enjoy notice. 
Just take comfort in knowing that by telling your partner you’re not hurting anyone or anything.  Its just a personal preference.

Answer:
By Aarron-
In general I would say it is always best to give notice because some (not all) women really appreciate it.
One girl I know has only ever let 2 men cum in her mouth. She actually is worried about a man not showing signs of orgasm and neglecting to tell her.
She has had a few men at parties try to cum without notice during oral, as she puts it “sneak” and attempt to cum in her mouth.
Such actions result in an instant dislike of the men because she doesn’t trust them anymore in any manner.
The result is that she will never play with them again and prefers not to even socialize with them.
A lot of women don’t want a surprise orgasm and a lot of women don’t want cum in their mouths.
If for no other reason than that it is always best to give notice in any way you can.

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